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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Ofcourse I don't really know where Ill end up living but Im drawn to east London, I've never lived there before, and Walthamstow in particular just seems to have a nice villagey feel while being on a tube line straight to Victoria and central London.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Its expensive, but in comparison with Sydney? not so much, ofcourse it depends how much you end up earning etc, but it can be done, we'll see what transpires anyway...</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Things are still going well, I think its quite difficult for both mum and I being together 24 hours virtually and Im still adjusting, so all things considered its going ok, but probably good that Im coming away for a few days. The weather is still bizarrely cold for April, but slightly warmer than it was, but Im ok at present, dressing well, utilising the Ugg boots etc!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So, am I missing Australia at all? No, still nothing, I've been in touch with a couple of friends but I really don't feel nothing, it certainly doesn't compare with the shock of moving to Australia, which really felt like a wrench. Sometimes its like the last 7 years never happened. However, that's not to say I haven't changed and grown with the experience I do feel I have and I certainly don't feel that I'm going backwards. But the feeling of belonging is there, just for info today I have had small convos with several people, asking directions, talking about the weather, news etc etc. that never happened in Sydney, so much just seemed so superficial....</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So all's good I feel this inner feeling of peace, that I haven't felt since I left the UK, I have no urge to go anywhere, just want to soak everything in! I also love that I'm allowed to have a point of view and not seen as weird for having one! People here actually participate in debate and points of view are welcome! what a relief after years of dumbing down and the frustration of the passive Aussies who don't speak up on anything (on the whole) so frustrating.....</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Sorry, I cant yet give you any negatives! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Notice in pub: <i>"When you're tired of London you're tired of life" </i>Samuel Johnson 1709 :)</span></div>
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Good riddance to a despotic, psychopathic manipulative power crazy bully. It is because of her that we now have a govt of snotty Eton boys doing their best to dismantle our health service and further down Thatchers road of everyone for themselves, and kicking and exploiting the most vulnerable in our society when they are down.... Sorry but I'm not one big sorry..... I for one will be drinking champagne tonight in honour of this great society!! Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0Southsea Southsea50.788597 -1.079904tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-31415263517635748092013-04-07T10:45:00.001-07:002013-04-07T10:45:30.730-07:00Back two weeks now!<span style="color: purple; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Hello All! ( she says optimistically!) well I've been back tow weeks now and am free of jetlag and feeling pretty good. Its been as I kind of expected really, I have been a bit stick in mums front room BUT Im happy there at present. </span><br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">The weather has been bizarre, much colder than it was when I was back last Christmas, but dry, so I am still able to wrap up and get out and about. the cat doesn't seem to bothered by the cold and he loves central heating! </span><br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">So, I was anticipating That this would feel different from my visits back over the last 7 years, and it does, but not that much, there's not the urgency to see people as there's plenty of time so I don't feel like I'm 'on tour' as I did in previous years. I obviously feel a bit in limbo not having work and not really knowing exactly where Ill be living yet. However, it feels ok, it feels right.</span><br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">These will sound like very small things I know, but they just make me feel at home, first people understand what Im saying, they know what 'pompeyblonde' means! the music they play in shops and restaurants is quality, no soft rock! The supermarkets are fabulous, its not a problem being a vegetarian, there's brilliant choice. These are not huge but what they do is add up to a feeling of being comfortable. </span><br />
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<span style="color: purple; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I worried that I wouldn't be appropriate in shops...pack my own bags? be too familiar?... this has not been a problem at all, I have found people to be very friendly and haven't felt stupid in that way once. </span><br />
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Hello Dear Readers! I come to you from Heathrow Airport when Im having a very nice fried egg sarnie and mug of tea! Well Im here and I can only hope that poor Leo is too… I cant collect him for another 2.5 hours.</div>
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Flight was pretty excruciating as ever, I was in Premium economy which was good, but no business class. Probably the best thing about it is that the cabin is small only 32 seats so no queuing for the loo etc and its quieter, but to be honest I think standard economy if you’re on the A380 is not that much worse, for quite a bit less cash.</div>
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Part of the problem though, is that a few factors impacted on my ability to enjoy the flight, firstly the regular realisation, during the trip, that poor Leo was in the hold and wondering how he is… couldn’t help it, it’s such a long flight. Secondly the general exhaustion! the last two weeks in particular, and not sleeping well. I was up at 7 on the day I flew out and literally spent 5 solid hours packing, still had two extra bags which I had to sent separately, I should have organised the shipping better…doh! Anyway, all done now and couldn’t have done it without my flatmate Jane, she’s been great and took me to the airport and helped me so much.</div>
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Well, it is chilly for March! But what a feeling to open the airport doors and get that blast of proper cold, it almost felt festive! And everyone at Heathrow has been very friendly and helpful! Must stop asking girls in shops how they are going though…. Hehe!</div>
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Well here I am and initial, very initial impression is it feels good! Even though left perfect weather in Sydney I must say 27 sunny cooler evening now… and I flew into grey clouds and rain, it still feels good, I did call my mum though and remind her to whack the heating up! </div>
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This is an amazing experience, I feel like I’ve been to outer space or lost in time! I’m liking it! It was weird saying goodbye to good mates in Australia, but at the end of the day we’re all in pretty much constant contact aren’t we? And one of my good Aussie mates will be over this July to do some walking in The Lakes, so we’ll meet up then, its just such a long way, I cant emphasise enough how big the world is when your strapped in a seat, at least Leo could lie down!</div>
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So what’s the plan? Well I think a few days kicking back and getting over it all, and then I need a new plan of action, looking for a job, working on my website for my private practice, and of course catching up with friends and family. I hope Leo settles in ok after his ordeal, poor thing and the difference in temperature for an Aussie cat! I think Leo might have to start his own blog!</div>
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I do feel a little bit foreign, even though everything is quite familiar, and isn’t it funny hearing really posh people? You never do in Aus, barristers sound the same as plumbers, which is quite nice in a way. Not that there isn’t snobbishness in Australia, its just different.</div>
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It also feels different this time to the other times when I’ve been visiting. Well the best thing is that I don’t have to do that flight again in three weeks…. But it just has a different feel, its good it feels fresh, I feel relaxed, I’m sure I’ve a few bumps to come though, we will see. No more long haul for me for a while, might pop over to NYC at some point though, my last journey from Aus was so horrific I thought that Id probably never return! 22 hours to LAX…. But now I’m back in the world! I can go on European city breaks! Hurray!! </div>
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Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-74206714892185120092013-03-13T21:49:00.001-07:002013-03-13T21:49:48.645-07:00The last few yards.....I come to you from Camperdown cemetery, one of my favourite places in Newtown.... Maybe a bit odd... But it's a wonderful place. The cemetery has been full for many years so all the graves are old, it is in fact the second oldest in Australia. Well as we all know that's not that old, but still.<br />
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What's fascinating is the stories, you can do a cemetery tour and hear about the convicts, the aboriginal people the immigrants and colonialists who really did it tough. The shipThe Dunbar sank in Sydney Harbour in 1857 all but one passengers drowned. Almost there and a storm sunk the ship, the memorial is here and is testament to the perilous nature if travel at that time, thousands drowned in the harbour, apparently not many people could swim at the time. <br />
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Why were they coming? Mostly to fulfill their jobs building the colony, some had just been on leave back to dear old Blighty and were returning.<br />
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And so here am I suffering sleepless nights and minor delirium at the prospect of flying premium economy this time next week! Certainly puts things in perspective for me! Those people were tough and steadfast, they had to be, and people think I'm brave for making the moves I make, very lucky that's for sure.<br />
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It's like being able to exhale... Being able to be yourself and other people understanding, and just knowing where you're coming from. I feel like I've been nourished this weekend! Ofcourse Adelaide is quiet, it's near impossible to get people out in the evenings, which is another reason last night was so special. <br />
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It's also been very timely to remember that time 7 years ago when I landed in Adelaide knowing nobody, really having no idea what the future held (who ever does?) in those days I had to go to the library to access emails and apply for jobs, North Terrace is beautiful, the city really is a stunner. Arriving in December I was soon to discover everything was pretty much shut until the end of January! It took three months to get a job, and here I am going back to probably the same, but of course not quite the same as I know how things work, it was a shock initially the system, or lack of it here.<br />
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I might have a wander to North Terrace again and see what's in at the museums, maybe the zoo.... Very pleasant indeed! Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0Adelaide Adelaide-34.928667 138.596079tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-51974422510302003162013-02-21T16:40:00.001-08:002013-02-21T16:40:45.734-08:00One Month to Go!! (gulp)<span style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Coming to you today from Sydney Airport as I prepare to fly to Adelaide for the last time! (well for a good long while any way) flight delays give me a nice window for an overdue update!</span><br />
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Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-89931942504201975702013-01-06T20:41:00.001-08:002013-01-06T20:41:06.445-08:00And on that note...."The first step to getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don't" AnonPompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0Westmead Hospital Hawkesbury Road, Westmead-33.803698 150.987735tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-16621306820950469612013-01-06T20:04:00.004-08:002013-01-06T20:04:42.465-08:00Well, yet again I've been slack on the blogging front...but that is about to change! Im now really on the countdown to my return...only 10/11 weeks to go...<br />
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Two things have been consuming my thoughts lately, one is how to totally declutter my life and just ship the absolute bare essentails back, I feel that the short term process will be painful, but that overall this will make for a far smoother transition. A good friend suggested the first step was to get an inventory done, so thats what I've started, I have several boxes under the house which at some point Ill have to dig out...<br />
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But when you think about it, why keep boxes of stuff under the house anyway...just in case??<br />
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This brings me to the 'Zen" of decluttering.... of our attachment to inanimate objects, our fear of losing our 'things' Also its the time of year when we are all reminded over here in Australia, that things don't really matter people do...Bushfire season is upon us. <br />
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Over my seven years here Ive heard several people speak from the still smouldering rubble of their family home, things along the lines of 'we're all alive and that's what matters' it puts things right back into perspective. Whats difficult is when objects are imbued with emotion...(as lets face it everything in human life is.. when you scratch the surface....) photos, letters, Dads glasses, Grandmas coat..... these things are really hard to let go of, because people are hard to let go of.... <br />
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Having said all that I have downloaded a couple of books to my new Kindle.... (yep, space saving at its coolest, pink case and all!) and Im reading about how to do it.... I'm looking forward to it, and finding it very interesting the feelings that are being unleashed in the process...<br />
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Kind of on the same note, Im wondering what Ill miss? and that feeling is becoming more acute as the day approaches.... fear again is ruling the day at times, will I find myself trapped forever more in mums tiny living room, watching endless Downton Abbey...with the curtains drawn... (fades the furniture) Gahhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! then I kind of shake myself out of it... give myself a kindly slap... 'snap out of it'!! 'Youve done it before you can do it again!......' etc etc....<br />
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the other week I dreamt that they didnt have a seat for me on the plane and they made me sit all the way to London on a dining room chair...when I got there I was feeling angry and couldnt decide if I should go and complain and demand my money back or simply collect Leo and move on..... I think Ill move on....Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0Sydney NSW, Australia-33.8674869 151.20699020000006-34.712017900000006 149.91609670000005 -33.0229559 152.49788370000007tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-49134104163551808952012-11-21T16:56:00.002-08:002012-11-21T16:59:11.036-08:00I'd procrastinate.... but I cant be bothered.....Hi Everyone, Im not the best blogger in the world am I?! I dont know why, there are a million things running through my head at the moment and I must make more effort to get them on the screen!<br />
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So, it is exactly four months yesterday that I will fly out of Sydney to Heathrow, and in two weeks or so on 15th Dec it will be 7 years since I landed in Oz. I have to say that I have no feelings of dread or worry associated with the return, Im only excited and really loking forward to it, I am prepared that it wont all be easy, this is part of the reason Im leaving on 21st March, first day of spring in UK, to give myself plenty of daylight to settle in!<br />
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Weather, you see, is the main reason people quote as the big draw towards living on the other side of the planet. For me weather wasnt an issue, BUT I must say daylight is, having said that homesickness is a funny thing, I find myself longing for chilly dark evenings and looking forward to getting a proper winter coat. <br />
There are major downsides to Aussie weather in any case. I lived in Adelaide for three and a half years. South Australia is basically a desert, in the summer it can be 46 degrees for a week and you are unable to leave the house, even Air Con doesnt help. then theres the floods, hurricanes Tornadoes Bush fires... In the UK weather is gnereally mild, generally friendly all year round... So Im ok with that, and ofcourse theyll be cheap weeks on the Costa Brava for when I want a bit of sun and Sangria.... God I miss Europe.<br />
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One thing that is concerning me a tiny bit is returning to the land of having a good moan. Dont get me wrong Im a whinger, and thats fine, but I have got used to the Aussie 'How you going?' 'Good thanks!' meaningless maybe, but once you get used to it, and most importantly realise they dont actually care how 'you are going' its pleasant! <br />
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On my last trip back to the UK my mum commented on my cheery 'Hello!!! how you going?!' to sometimes perplexed cab drivers... they usually respond well...I think Ill try and keep that up as long as I can.... it may cause a kerfuffle in Tescos....<br />
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who never totally settle love to get these out on the table and compare their
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very close to my heart as I drive about 30ks to work every day…and back…
traffic is pretty universal unless you live in the bush, but <b>appalling
driving and rude drivers </b>is something I have never gotten used to.
Australian drivers basically do not look where they are going, don’t indicate,
don’t understand roundabouts…at all.., they cannot merge in traffic, never let
anyone in, don’t thank you when you let them in, and are generally very
unpleasant to be on the road with…. Despite returning to London where hopefully
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never been a fan of bouncers. Basically they are over grown school bully's who
have the potential progression and enjoyment of your evening in their fat hairy
hands, but they are necessary for the safety of revellers are they not? Well
that doesn’t appear to be their role in Australia… In Oz their role appears to
be to stare into your eyes ask you what you’ve had, and then humiliate you in
front of your mates. You don’t have to say anything, BUT if you don’t they will
assume you are off your tits and send you home,,, A few times while here I have
been reprimanded for ‘sitting having a think‘….or ‘not talking or dancing‘….Oh
I could go on, but basically they ruin your night and I admit don’t respond
well to some overgrown 18 year old oaf telling me I look ‘a bit funny’ ( I
might do! but I’m not doing any harm, and I’m not even drinking) or stopping a
perfectly happy, stable, if merry, friend getting in….. awful.. and just one
example of how Australia creates jobs and roles for people where there really
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in the last 48 hours as the Foxtel (cable) has been down. When I first come to
Australia I rely couldn’t see the point of watching UK TV and in any case in
the first 18 months in what too painful to even see London on the telly. I had
all sorts of ideas at that time, and it kind of makes me smile now. People talk
about integration and assimilation, well its not easy. I was determined to
throw myself into an Australian way of life, like on Neighbours…or similar. I
was going to be outdoors, possibly in the pool, with bouncer of course, there
wouldn’t be time for TV! But I do like my telly, so I tried to get into Bondi
Rescue, I do like that show, and all the American crap too… It just wasn’t
working. So after 18 months I got Foxtel and now watch the BBC, Corrie the
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Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-77694015211568245142012-10-02T15:40:00.000-07:002012-10-02T20:50:19.773-07:00Getting on with it...or not!Hi there, well I think I have sorted out the problems with the posting of comments so hopefully if you would like to, you can comment!<br />
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Since my last blogging I haven't really done anything practical towards my move, well, unless you count arranging trips to Tassie and to Adelaide to see friends and say goodbye. Time ofcourse, marches on, I really do need to start selling things and working out what to ship.<br />
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My flight is booked, Premium Economy which Im really looking forward to. I have looked into Leos costs (a 7 kilo pussy cat!) and that will be about 2700, what I expected really. My flatmate back from her holiday yesterday but as she is going away for work soon I figure Ill tell her about my plans when she gets back. then I can push on and find out if she wants any of my furniture etc..... There seems so much to think about and I really want to make it as stress free as I can by planning...... I need lists!!Pompeyblondereturnshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12398276178731123228noreply@blogger.com0Sydney NSW, Australia-33.8674869 151.2069902-34.289408900000005 150.56154320000002 -33.4455649 151.8524372tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6915284744880161259.post-82643919302489799002012-09-26T19:16:00.002-07:002012-10-03T01:00:29.261-07:00My story so far.....<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Hello! How nice to meet you, I'm starting this blog to record my experiences returning to the UK after 7 years in Australia. But the story really starts about 8 years ago when I put in my visa application for Oz, what made me do it? Did I have any idea what I was letting myself in for? Not really, but thats a bit of a pattern for me! Its really useful for me to plot the whole thing, because its been such and experience and I've learned and changed so much despite the challenges along the way.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It took three months to get a job, I had 13 years experience and was a senior social worker in UK, I couldnt even get a reply for government jobs in Australia, I was quite shocked by this, niave whatever, I guess I should have reserached more, but I think I assumed that if they gave me a visa they needed me!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Eventually I took a job managing residential homes for young people, I was back covering sleep ins and doing front line work, which actually I enjoyed despite the terrible pay. After three jobs in 3 years I eventually got a great job working for the South Australian Policeas as a staff counsellor. It was a great job with great people, I learned so much working with so much trauma, and really decided that I wanted to be a therapist and not to return to social work per se. Hey I'd done 16 years by then! </span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Despite a great job, I was still unsettled, Adelaide is a big country twon and I am a city person, I know that for certain now. Socially, you soon discover as an expat that locals arent really interested in you, not to any great extent, they have their own families and friends and as a culture they are not really sociable in the way I have found the Brits to be. Anyone who knows me will know that wherever I go I end up being social secretary! I tried my best and I did have some great times, but as a single woman in her 40's I could only really take so much of the BBQ scene. i wanted to go out! </span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Adelaide in retrospect wasnt the place for me, though Ill always be grateful for what SA gave me, I was longing for something, Dating etc has always been a non starter for me in Australia, I just cant even after 7 years get used to the idea that women have to chase men, and be grateful for whatever attention they may (or probably wont) get! Even young intelligent women were waiting on blokes hand and foot, putting up with what I perceived to be appalling behaviour as the norm... Thats just not going to work for me, I knew that pretty early on. In any case any single blokes over 40 thinks they're gods gift.. and has their pick! well they probably do...</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I got my permanent residency in 2007, and I was free to think about moving, but I wasnt sure, Adealide was comfortable, I loved my job, but I felt like I was settling down for retirement there. I also had some bad experiences with a couple of the expats. I think that as an expat, expecially on your own, you're pretty vulnerable in many ways. I found myself mixing with people who to be frank I found at times quite offensive, racist and ignorant. However, i didnt really feel able to challenge this as they were all the support I had at the time. So bascially I wasnt being myself. I was also viewed with curiousity and suspicion because I was single and professional, well I guess I was an oddity! having said that I have a few people there who I hope will be life long friends, including Australians I met through work who were great (social workers..love em!)</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Just writing that paragraph prompts a lot of memories of being like a fish out of water, not fitting in, being stuck between the expats and the locals but not suiting either group really. Its only recently that Ive felt able to say what I really think, to be true to what I believe, which is a pretty vital thing in life!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I could go on at length about culture clash issues, and the endless red tape and over the top government in Australia, it just seems to me that as a small place population wise they are inventing bureacracy to keep themselves busy eg: the TAFE system and needing qualifications in bar tending/cleaning/shop work. The tax system which is the most complex in the world. etc etc but to be honest I just dont see how a developed country can move on if it can't organise traffic lights properly.. or come to that teach people how to use roundabouts! nuff said I think!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After much soul searching I decided I had two options, return to the UK, or give Sydney a try. I'd enjoyed my time in Sydney while travelling although it was the least 'Australian' place I visited. I decided it was worth a go, and also I hadnt at that time got my citizenship which I figured I might as well get after everything I'd experienced. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I moved to Sydney in March 2009 I already had a job working as a staff counseller in a hospital. The move was far more stressful than I imagined. Moving is always hard, but moving interstate was probably atleast as full on as moving from the UK. Worse than that I arrived to find that my new manager was...well a psycho! is the only way to put it! Id left a job I loved with fabulous people and here I was.. alone again (naturally!) sorry that shows my age! and stuck with possibly one of the most bizarre individuals that Ive ever come accross, including clients! My colleagues were great and to cut a very long and painful story short she was eventually demoted after three complaints of bullying and harrassment (this is the staff counselling team!) Thankfully I found a job in a different hospital, which is where I am now, but blimey that was a hard period to live through.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Life in Sydney is much more to my liking, I live in the inner west, whch is a bit like Stoke Newington in the sunshine! theres loads to do, Im always out and there are some great people here. its even harder here to make local friends, my social life does rely on the expats, but they are generally younger, professional, no kids, so are more into being out and about. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So whats missing? When I was travelling Sydney was the place that I was most homesick, despite spending 4 months in SE Asia. I think this was for two reasons, one I'd been away a fair few months by then, but two its kind of like a mimi replica of London, created by the original expats to remind them of home. Sydney is the oldest setttled part of Australia, it has underground trains, copies all the place names of London, Scotland and the UK... its like a parallel universe but it isnt the same... and its 24 hours from 'home'.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Every expats nightmare, especially in Australia is a family member getting ill. I had to face this over the course of my 3 years in Sydney. My dad became ill in 2007 but the saga went on until he became extremely ill in November 2009 when i had to return and sadly in June 2010 when I managed to see him 2 days before he died. he was only 65. These things are part of life and will happen no matter where you are in the world, but the stress, helplessness and guilt of being 12,000 miles away never leaves you. When I left the UK in 2005 I left a fit healthy (as far as we knew) man of 61 who was still going to gigs, pubs travelling and walking everywhere, you just never know whats around the corner and it certainly made me seriously consider the future, where did I want to be really?</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When Dad died I was part way through a clinical masters, I absolutely loved the course and will always be grateful for the opportunity to study with world experst in the field. I graduated in November 2011.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #134f5c; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The final decision came for me a matter of weeks ago, I got a lump sum of backpay from work, I'd just spent two weeks cheering crying and laughing at The Jubilee and the Olympics and... it was as if everything I felt was there on screen. I'd been debating with myself for what seemed like forever, what will I go back to? I googled jobs just out of interest and it seemed there were far more opportunities for me in the UK. that was it, I decided.... and I have to say that once I made the decison I felt like a huge breeze block of pain and grief was lifted off my chest! Im even enjoying my time in Sydney now, without that deep hurt and resentment, I have 6 months to plan my return on March 22nd 2013. Im not expecting it to be super easy, but we will see! have I changed more than the uk? :)</span><br />
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